You can track your grave on the minimap as well as the full map. Once tracked, you can always travel back to where you died and retrieve your belongings if they have not already been taken by another player.
Darkfall: Rise of Agon is a full-loot MMORPG. Any and all items on a player at the time of death are dropped on a gravestone that can be retrieved by any player. Because this is a core feature of Darkfall, we are unable to provide support to players that have lost their gear.